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venerdì 31 agosto 2018
giovedì 30 agosto 2018
mercoledì 29 agosto 2018
BDSM Beginners: All About Aftercare
If you’re curious about exploring BDSM with your partner, it can seem like there is an endless list of considerations. It’s not quite as simple as dressing up a certain way and tying your partner up; you both need to discuss what fantasy you’re interested in, set your hard and soft limits, pick your safe words… and then the step that many don’t think to prepare for: aftercare.
Even though it takes place ‘after’ a scene, aftercare requires forethought and conversation. But what is it exactly?
What is BDSM Aftercare?
Aftercare is, very simply, the time you and your partner take after play time to recover and also to see to each other’s emotional and physical needs. Certain role plays and kinky acts can be both physically and psychologically taxing, so this time is a great for relaxing, as well as getting ‘back to reality.’
Why is it Necessary?
The Ideal Night In: Tips for the Perfect Massage TechniqueRead More …
An intimate massage can be a great way to connect with your partner while offering a comforting touch, and a warm massage oil can sooth both your muscles, and the skin if you were engaging in impact play. A bath or shower is also great; it serves a practical clean up purpose as well as letting you both share an intimate and relaxing moment!
Emotional aftercare involves discussing the scene and how you both felt about it, good and bad, which is integral for ensuring that you both understand each other’s needs and expectations from play. You also may want to give your partner assurances about their kink, reminding them that nothing they did or enjoyed makes them ‘weird’ or ‘perverse.’ Making a conscious point to continue this conversation after a couple days also makes sure you’re both aware of any negative feelings that have lingered, and can also serve to make you excited about the next time.
Does Everyone Need Aftercare?
Some people might be completely okay without aftercare, or may prefer to be left alone rather than kiss and cuddle. That’s why it’s important to negotiate aftercare before getting started. If you’re just starting to experiment with BDSM and not sure what kind of aftercare you or your partner may need, discussing your feelings after the scene serves as your jumping off point for the care you or your partner would like to receive in experiences to come.
Additionally, many assume that aftercare is exclusively something that a Dominant must provide for a sub, though that simply isn’t true. Someone in a Dominant role may experience the same ‘drop’ from physical exertion as a sub, and can similarly desire the emotional connection that re-establishes the normal, loving and affectionate roles of your relationship.
There is no one way to provide or receive aftercare, the only real guideline is to be open, accepting, and attentive to the emotional and physical needs of your partner, while also making sure that your own needs are met as well.
https://www.lelo.com/blog/bdsm-beginners-aftercare/
Even though it takes place ‘after’ a scene, aftercare requires forethought and conversation. But what is it exactly?
What is BDSM Aftercare?
Aftercare is, very simply, the time you and your partner take after play time to recover and also to see to each other’s emotional and physical needs. Certain role plays and kinky acts can be both physically and psychologically taxing, so this time is a great for relaxing, as well as getting ‘back to reality.’
Why is it Necessary?
Our fantasies don’t necessarily correlate with who we are in our regular, day-to-day lives. While we may want our partner to dress as a demanding authoritarian who exacts humiliating punishments on us during kinky play, that’s not how we want them to treat us during the normal course of our relationship. Aftercare functions as a ‘recalibration’ for the normalcy of your relationship.
There can be a physical toll as well. Many people compare the sensation immediately following a scene (sometimes called a ‘sub drop,’ though it happens to tops as well) as being similar to sensations felt after an intense athletic performance. The rush of endorphins coupled with potential physical exertion can leave you feeling weak, fatigued, or dazed, and you may be slightly dehydrated depending on the intensity of the scene.
Types of Aftercare
Aftercare can be generally put into two categories: physical and emotional. Physical aftercare includes things such as helping remove any paraphernalia like restraints or blindfolds, getting your partner something to eat or drink (blood sugar levels can be important to pay attention to), providing a blanket or warm clothing, kissing or caressing any part of their body, or specifically to area that may have been marked during play, or providing affection and comfort in a quiet place.
There can be a physical toll as well. Many people compare the sensation immediately following a scene (sometimes called a ‘sub drop,’ though it happens to tops as well) as being similar to sensations felt after an intense athletic performance. The rush of endorphins coupled with potential physical exertion can leave you feeling weak, fatigued, or dazed, and you may be slightly dehydrated depending on the intensity of the scene.
Types of Aftercare
Aftercare can be generally put into two categories: physical and emotional. Physical aftercare includes things such as helping remove any paraphernalia like restraints or blindfolds, getting your partner something to eat or drink (blood sugar levels can be important to pay attention to), providing a blanket or warm clothing, kissing or caressing any part of their body, or specifically to area that may have been marked during play, or providing affection and comfort in a quiet place.
The Ideal Night In: Tips for the Perfect Massage TechniqueRead More …
An intimate massage can be a great way to connect with your partner while offering a comforting touch, and a warm massage oil can sooth both your muscles, and the skin if you were engaging in impact play. A bath or shower is also great; it serves a practical clean up purpose as well as letting you both share an intimate and relaxing moment!
Emotional aftercare involves discussing the scene and how you both felt about it, good and bad, which is integral for ensuring that you both understand each other’s needs and expectations from play. You also may want to give your partner assurances about their kink, reminding them that nothing they did or enjoyed makes them ‘weird’ or ‘perverse.’ Making a conscious point to continue this conversation after a couple days also makes sure you’re both aware of any negative feelings that have lingered, and can also serve to make you excited about the next time.
Does Everyone Need Aftercare?
Some people might be completely okay without aftercare, or may prefer to be left alone rather than kiss and cuddle. That’s why it’s important to negotiate aftercare before getting started. If you’re just starting to experiment with BDSM and not sure what kind of aftercare you or your partner may need, discussing your feelings after the scene serves as your jumping off point for the care you or your partner would like to receive in experiences to come.
Additionally, many assume that aftercare is exclusively something that a Dominant must provide for a sub, though that simply isn’t true. Someone in a Dominant role may experience the same ‘drop’ from physical exertion as a sub, and can similarly desire the emotional connection that re-establishes the normal, loving and affectionate roles of your relationship.
There is no one way to provide or receive aftercare, the only real guideline is to be open, accepting, and attentive to the emotional and physical needs of your partner, while also making sure that your own needs are met as well.
https://www.lelo.com/blog/bdsm-beginners-aftercare/
martedì 28 agosto 2018
lunedì 27 agosto 2018
Sadomaso, le foto di Jacques Biederer: gli anni '20 tra frustini e catene
Il mondo del sadomaso e del fetish?
Erano floridi già negli anni '20 e '30, come dimostrano queste fotografie ripubblicate da Dangerous Minds e riprese da Dagospia, che mostrano il lavoro del fotografo ceco Jacques Biederer, uno dei principali produttori, a Parigi, di fotografia erotica negli anni a cavallo tra le due guerre mondiale. Diventò famoso soprattutto per la produzione di nudi erotici con scene di sottomissione, in studio e in set organizzati all'esterno. Per il suo lavoro usò corsetti in cuoio, stivali con tacco alto, catene, fruste, cinture di castità, tutti oggetti assai scandalosi per l'epoca. Biederer, di origine ebree, quando la Francia fu occupata dai nazisti, fu imprigionato nel capo di Auschwitz, dove morì.
http://www.liberoquotidiano.it/gallery/sfoglio/12348456/sadomaso-foto-jacques-biederer-anni-venti.html
http://m.dagospia.com/sadomaso-vintage-fetish-pony-play-frustate-e-sculacciate-anni-20-negli-scatti-di-biederer-145027
domenica 26 agosto 2018
sabato 25 agosto 2018
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venerdì 24 agosto 2018
giovedì 23 agosto 2018
mercoledì 22 agosto 2018
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martedì 21 agosto 2018
lunedì 20 agosto 2018
Il Bondage: costringere per liberare
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mercoledì 15 agosto 2018
martedì 14 agosto 2018
lunedì 13 agosto 2018
BONDAGE, COME FARE LEGAMI D’AMORE IN SICUREZZA
Quando si parla di sessualità, la varietà di gusti e pratiche oggi giorno riesce a comprendere cose che un tempo erano considerati tabù come il bondage, ovvero quella specialità all’interno del vasto mondo BDSM in cui si immobilizza il partnerattraverso legatura e costrizione fisica. Poiché il bondage è sempre più di moda, con tante coppie che si avvicinano con curiosità a questo mondo, è bene sapere come fare legami d’amore in sicurezza, evitando che al dominatore o alla dominatrice sfugga il controllo della situazione a cui si affida il sottomesso. Nel bondage la fiducia è importante, ma ancora di più agire in modo tale che questa pratica tra adulti consenzienti non si trasformi addirittura in una tragedia, come talora le cronache mediatiche ci hanno raccontato. Vediamo dunque quali sono i consigli e suggerimenti degli esperti su come fare legami d’amore nel bondage in maniera appropriata.
Il bondage comprende l’ausilio di vari oggetti come manette e corde, ma anche bavagli e bende per impedire di vedere o parlare: le fantasie di costrizione eccitano tanto uomini che le donne, un gioco di ruolo fra dominatore e sottomesso fatto di complicità, in cui non necessariamente si arriva al rapporto sessuale vero e proprio, ma nonostante ciò, assicura chi è abitualmente dedito a questa pratica, si può comunque raggiungere l’orgasmo. Anche senza volersi specializzare esclusivamente nell’universo BDSM, queste tecniche possono essere utilizzate da qualunque coppia abbia il desiderio di rompere la routine del ménage di coppia: per chi dunque abbia voglia di mettersi in gioco, senza arrivare a pratiche più forti come la competa immobilizzazione del partner o la sospensione del corpo a soffitti o sostegni, ecco alcuni consigli base su come praticare il bondage in sicurezza.
- Stabilire subito regole e limiti
- Non mettere corde intorno al collo
- Non lasciare da solo chi è legato
- Non stringere troppo le corde e non fare nodi che possano diventare scorsoi
- Non assumere alcol o droghe prima di praticare il bondage
- Non avventurarsi in pratiche troppo complicate che non si sanno fare
- Fare in modo che il bondage sia sempre un’esperienza piacevole e positiva
- Avere sempre buon senso
http://www.qnm.it/amore/bondage-come-fare-legami-d-amore-in-sicurezza-post-211313.html
domenica 12 agosto 2018
sabato 11 agosto 2018
venerdì 10 agosto 2018
The Feelings of A Locked Boy
From the moment I put on a chastity device, I feel secure, I have something touching my intimate parts and reminding me of the Woman who owns me.
It is a reminder of the fact that I have given up myself to the service and the pleasure of my Mistress, and that Her pleasure is the only one that matters in our relationship.
She comes first.
When I wear my chastity device, it is as if I was carrying my Mistress’s firm grip in my pants every moment of every day: when I am alone, when I sleep and when I socialise with my friends. People stand beside me, never realising that my Mistress holds me tight down in my intimate boy parts.
When I wear my chastity device, it is as if I was carrying my Mistress’s firm grip in my pants every moment of every day: when I am alone, when I sleep and when I socialise with my friends. People stand beside me, never realising that my Mistress holds me tight down in my intimate boy parts.
It humiliates me every moment of the day, making me feel submitted to Her will, literally owned.
It is a reminder that She is the Woanan and that I am the submissive boy reduced to a hole for Her to fill and to take care of.
I am denied, emasculated and servile.
I am denied, emasculated and servile.
giovedì 9 agosto 2018
Pornage di Barbara Costa
Il rapporto che si crea tra una Mistress e uno slave non è recitato, è fatto di fiducia, appartenenza, dipendenza è un'esperienza catartica ed emotiva.
E' un incontro dove il sesso c'è, ma non in maniera tradizionale con contatto di corpi, fluidi, mucose, penetrazioni: è un'eccitazione, uno scambio, un piacere fisico che l'uomo riceve dalle torture, dalle privazioni sensoriali a cui è sottoposto, ma soprattutto è un piacere mentale che consiste nell'essere in completa balia e possesso della sua Mistress.
(tratto da "Pornage" di Barbara Costa)
mercoledì 8 agosto 2018
martedì 7 agosto 2018
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