An interesting article by a Master and his point of view.
Enjoy the reading!
DG
Before I was in the BDSM lifestyle or in any form of BDSM relationship. I was a very impatient person. I only cared about me and my own pleasures. I was one of those crazy guys who was horny all the damn time. I remember when I was young. I would masturbate a lot.
I also got addicted to porn at a young age. Which also made my own personal satisfaction better at the time. I was just like every teenage guy. Yet, I wasn’t I was socially awkward and I didn’t know how to talk to women so much so that I was friend zoned by every woman I knew.
I really didn’t know why either. (at the time) I was unsure of myself and very timid and shy when it came to specific topics. Maybe that was my Christian upbringing. Maybe it was the fact that I wasn’t really taught how to woo a woman. I used the word like a lot.
I couldn’t wrap my head around what confidence really was, or how to stand up straight and present myself. I was the guy everyone made fun of glasses and all. I was the third wheel more often than not. No matter what I did I couldn’t have a woman be anything more than a friend.
That all changed when I realized that there was more to me than what people said and thought. In fact, it didn’t matter what they thought of me. I started to stand up straight and walk with a purpose.
I got into BDSM a while later and realized that I could be more than a 5-foot 6-inch nerd who knows too much about video games and Marvel. I could be the one that was in charge. (Little did I know back then) Yet, those ideas stuck with me and helped me grow and learn more about the lifestyle.
My own personal growth started to kick in hardcore years later when I met my submissive Melika. Now don’t tell her I told you this, but she is a major reason as to why I have chosen to grow as much as I have.
She has been a driving force in my life for these past years and shown me that even now with all my knowledge in BDSM and in life. I still have a lot to learn. (Mind you she does like to consider herself a switch but has never switched with me. She has always been submissive)
Now, all that being said., I wouldn’t be the man I am today without her being there for me. Just as I have been there for her. We both have been each other’s rocks. We both have supported each other in rough times.
Getting back on topic though, through BDSM I have learned patience and a lot of it. I have learned to let the little things go as well. I use to be a very angry person thinking it was me against the world. (Now it is Melika and me against the world)
I have no reason to be angry. I have learned to be more practical and more thoughtful in my actions and words. Not just in BDSM but in life as well. I honestly, can’t find much that I haven’t learned from BDSM.
Which is something that you may find odd, but it is true. I have learned a lot from my submissives over time as well. That thought is all due to BDSM. I am sure that there is a lot that you can learn too. If you are willing to.
Don’t be afraid of what you can learn in this lifestyle or from your partners in the lifestyle.
- Master Locke
https://masterlocke.wordpress.com/2017/06/12/bdsm-and-personal-growth/
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